Why do people assume their minds will be built by experience alone?
Building muscle mass requires working the muscle fibers to failure. This is common knowledge. Showing up to the gym is not enough. The same for running – we all know a person is not able to run a 6-minute mile because they bought shoes and enjoyed a walk around the track.
Clearly the key to meeting our health and fitness objectives is setting our ambitions above our current state. Then we must be ready to endure the pain that comes with the training.
Like the body, the mind cannot be built by merely ‘showing up’. Just like pain is endured when improving your body’s performance – it is also endured to improve our mind’s performance. Working through the difficulty of conflict strengthens our people skills. Dealing with problems improves our ability to be solutions minded. Unfortunately, these types of stresses cause many to quit right before their mental capacity is about to expand.
The key to pushing through and enduring the growth pain is understanding the true goal.
While achieving near-term goals in life is rewarding (i.e. lose weight, pay off debt, etc.), the typical person tends to fall right back to where they started. Why? Because they are driving toward the wrong goal. While focused on the result (i.e. lose weight) they adopt unsustainable habits. Then after achieved falling back onto old ones. Instead, if the goal was consistent new habits, the result would have been their desired outcome.
Embrace the stress, and endure through the change process. Focus on new habits, instead of outcomes.
Most importantly, never stop improving.
Life becomes far more purposeful.